Demodulate
Senior Don Juan
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tactical swat gear works great for clubbing...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
for a guy in his 30s
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Elimidate
Senior Don Juan
"Best" is subjective.
It depends on the type of club also the type of women you want to attact.
Let me ask you a questions...sit back relax, think of the club and act out in your mind striking up a great conversation with a HB. She is totaly into you and the you take her the sweaty dance floor...keep up for mojo now...she is all over you. Nicely done, she sends you a smile thats makes you feel you've just won the lottery..so you end up with a night of passion back at your place!
Which clubbing gear were you wearing?
Only you know the answer!
The key is to wear clothes that YOU love and make you feel confident. I could tell you to go out and buy my $1200 Boss jacket but who I am to tell you what to wear lol.
Here's my advice:
1) If in doubt, check out the clubs website and to see the environment you'll be in.
2) Although I rarely take womens advice, the times I do is when I go shopping for clothes. I trust the experts.
3) Where clothes that make you feel like the man.
As within, so without. As without (some great theads) so with in !
Elimidate
It depends on the type of club also the type of women you want to attact.
Let me ask you a questions...sit back relax, think of the club and act out in your mind striking up a great conversation with a HB. She is totaly into you and the you take her the sweaty dance floor...keep up for mojo now...she is all over you. Nicely done, she sends you a smile thats makes you feel you've just won the lottery..so you end up with a night of passion back at your place!
Which clubbing gear were you wearing?
Only you know the answer!
The key is to wear clothes that YOU love and make you feel confident. I could tell you to go out and buy my $1200 Boss jacket but who I am to tell you what to wear lol.
Here's my advice:
1) If in doubt, check out the clubs website and to see the environment you'll be in.
2) Although I rarely take womens advice, the times I do is when I go shopping for clothes. I trust the experts.
3) Where clothes that make you feel like the man.
As within, so without. As without (some great theads) so with in !
Elimidate
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Aztec
Master Don Juan
Originally posted by Demodulate
tactical swat gear works great for clubbing...
:crackup: A cop carrying a "club".
Derek Flint
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Don't try to dress like the younger guys - you'll look like a "tryhard" and will look out of place.
A nice shirt and slacks will do fine.
Leave that "peacocking" crap to the clowns
Eric Clapton
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Re: Re: for a guy in his 30s
Ditto, dress how you feel comfortable, but be stylish, don't try to look like a frat boy when you are 12 yrs. senior.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DoubleA
Senior Don Juan
I agree.
Be comfortable. I mean I can tell you from experience there were times I walked into a club wearing a suit and got NO LOOKS. I MEAN NONE. Damn.
Then I realized as long as you're loose and confortable you'll have more enjoyable experience. Let's face it everyone is going into the place looking their best. It's not a fashion show.
Man, wear a nice shirt and trouser combination. Just like Flint said.
Find out if the place gets hot or has AC. If it's a sweat box then tank top T shirt undernearth.
Finally..F the dumb it. Use a fragrance very lightly. If it gets on your clothes the better.
HOLLA
Be comfortable. I mean I can tell you from experience there were times I walked into a club wearing a suit and got NO LOOKS. I MEAN NONE. Damn.
Then I realized as long as you're loose and confortable you'll have more enjoyable experience. Let's face it everyone is going into the place looking their best. It's not a fashion show.
Man, wear a nice shirt and trouser combination. Just like Flint said.
Find out if the place gets hot or has AC. If it's a sweat box then tank top T shirt undernearth.
Finally..F the dumb it. Use a fragrance very lightly. If it gets on your clothes the better.
HOLLA