"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
flirting by texts
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I've realized texting's only good for just goofing off and fun/flirting or plain old info...any more needs a call IMO
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You can't really be sure though, that's the problem with texting. It's just words, no tone o emotion. Allure is right, if you do send texts to a woman (flirting or otherwise) keep it down to 2 or 3.sadora said:
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
Example:
Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye
That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?
GlennCoCo said:
Exactly. Thats why you dont text boring crap like that. You dont ask her 'whats up?"
If you were at a party you would text something like this
"Hey, Im at a rager, and its super-bichin. Is that because you're not here to spoil it?
"her :"you're mean, blahblah"
you "you have exactly ten minutes to get here, or Im going to your moms house for sweet lovin"
her "hah,hah...."
you "im serious. If I dont see tonight, Im gonna jump off a bridge...And Im taking your puppy with me, so you better get here!"
End of Convo. Or...bug her till she caves in.
That shyt wont land you in the friendzone. "what are you up to?" will. Notice how that was both dominant, fun and flirty at the same time. "what are you up to?" is boring.
You dont have to stick to 2 or three texts, as long as you arent being needy, boring, or supplicating. Be sure to not respond right away to her texts though. You seem like you have more of a life if you dont answer right away.
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
What do you do if your just stuck at home doing nothing?
Like me, since I don't have a car yet.
example of a short message + giving a girl a command:
you: meet me at 12 infront of the cafeteria
avoid the following (long messages, keep these for actual talking on the phone or in person):
you: hey whats up! im doing ok i went to the mall yesterday to buy some jeans. After that i went to get a haircut you know. I had a great time with my friends the other day.
I personally would recommend keeping the c&f to a minimum as it can be misunderstood over texts sometimes. I ruined my chances of going out with 2 hot girls due to c&f over texts being misunderstood and them getting offended. A third one I went out with then I used a little too much c&f and i couldn't get to a second date. Now i'm in a cold streak haven't had a date for months. Be careful!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:
damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.
it's a good thing I have toys
Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage
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You're proud that when she's feeling horny, her first thought is her toys?sadora said:
I didn't buy a phone so I could type with butchered grammar; I got a phone to call people.