"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
flirting by texts
- Thread starter sadora
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I've realized texting's only good for just goofing off and fun/flirting or plain old info...any more needs a call IMO
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can't really be sure though, that's the problem with texting. It's just words, no tone o emotion. Allure is right, if you do send texts to a woman (flirting or otherwise) keep it down to 2 or 3.sadora said:
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
Example:
Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye
That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?
GlennCoCo said:
Exactly. Thats why you dont text boring crap like that. You dont ask her 'whats up?"
If you were at a party you would text something like this
"Hey, Im at a rager, and its super-bichin. Is that because you're not here to spoil it?
"her :"you're mean, blahblah"
you "you have exactly ten minutes to get here, or Im going to your moms house for sweet lovin"
her "hah,hah...."
you "im serious. If I dont see tonight, Im gonna jump off a bridge...And Im taking your puppy with me, so you better get here!"
End of Convo. Or...bug her till she caves in.
That shyt wont land you in the friendzone. "what are you up to?" will. Notice how that was both dominant, fun and flirty at the same time. "what are you up to?" is boring.
You dont have to stick to 2 or three texts, as long as you arent being needy, boring, or supplicating. Be sure to not respond right away to her texts though. You seem like you have more of a life if you dont answer right away.
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
What do you do if your just stuck at home doing nothing?
Like me, since I don't have a car yet.
example of a short message + giving a girl a command:
you: meet me at 12 infront of the cafeteria
avoid the following (long messages, keep these for actual talking on the phone or in person):
you: hey whats up! im doing ok i went to the mall yesterday to buy some jeans. After that i went to get a haircut you know. I had a great time with my friends the other day.
I personally would recommend keeping the c&f to a minimum as it can be misunderstood over texts sometimes. I ruined my chances of going out with 2 hot girls due to c&f over texts being misunderstood and them getting offended. A third one I went out with then I used a little too much c&f and i couldn't get to a second date. Now i'm in a cold streak haven't had a date for months. Be careful!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:
damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.
it's a good thing I have toys
Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage
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You're proud that when she's feeling horny, her first thought is her toys?sadora said:
I didn't buy a phone so I could type with butchered grammar; I got a phone to call people.