"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
flirting by texts
- Thread starter sadora
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I've realized texting's only good for just goofing off and fun/flirting or plain old info...any more needs a call IMO
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can't really be sure though, that's the problem with texting. It's just words, no tone o emotion. Allure is right, if you do send texts to a woman (flirting or otherwise) keep it down to 2 or 3.sadora said:
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
Example:
Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye
That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?
GlennCoCo said:
Exactly. Thats why you dont text boring crap like that. You dont ask her 'whats up?"
If you were at a party you would text something like this
"Hey, Im at a rager, and its super-bichin. Is that because you're not here to spoil it?
"her :"you're mean, blahblah"
you "you have exactly ten minutes to get here, or Im going to your moms house for sweet lovin"
her "hah,hah...."
you "im serious. If I dont see tonight, Im gonna jump off a bridge...And Im taking your puppy with me, so you better get here!"
End of Convo. Or...bug her till she caves in.
That shyt wont land you in the friendzone. "what are you up to?" will. Notice how that was both dominant, fun and flirty at the same time. "what are you up to?" is boring.
You dont have to stick to 2 or three texts, as long as you arent being needy, boring, or supplicating. Be sure to not respond right away to her texts though. You seem like you have more of a life if you dont answer right away.
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
What do you do if your just stuck at home doing nothing?
Like me, since I don't have a car yet.
example of a short message + giving a girl a command:
you: meet me at 12 infront of the cafeteria
avoid the following (long messages, keep these for actual talking on the phone or in person):
you: hey whats up! im doing ok i went to the mall yesterday to buy some jeans. After that i went to get a haircut you know. I had a great time with my friends the other day.
I personally would recommend keeping the c&f to a minimum as it can be misunderstood over texts sometimes. I ruined my chances of going out with 2 hot girls due to c&f over texts being misunderstood and them getting offended. A third one I went out with then I used a little too much c&f and i couldn't get to a second date. Now i'm in a cold streak haven't had a date for months. Be careful!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:
damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.
it's a good thing I have toys
Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage
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You're proud that when she's feeling horny, her first thought is her toys?sadora said:
I didn't buy a phone so I could type with butchered grammar; I got a phone to call people.