"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sadora

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I looked but didn't find anything on this.

What do you guys think about flirty text messages, any ideas?

I just sent out GTH4U, which got a good response once she figured out what it meant.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Captain said:
That text message totally removed all the mystery from you. She knows you're into her now. She won't be wondering. You don't ever TELL a woman you're like her, you SHOW her (physically.)
She responded well to it thought.
 

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Um, what's the GTH4U?

Anyways, there's no problem with FLIRTING via text, just don't overdo it. Keep it at most 2-3 text messages, and make sure it bridges you to the NEXT date.
 

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I think it's Got The Hots For You

I've realized texting's only good for just goofing off and fun/flirting or plain old info...any more needs a call IMO
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sadora said:
She responded well to it thought.
You can't really be sure though, that's the problem with texting. It's just words, no tone o emotion. Allure is right, if you do send texts to a woman (flirting or otherwise) keep it down to 2 or 3.
 

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How would 2 to 3 texts work?

Example:

Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye

That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?
 

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GlennCoCo said:
How would 2 to 3 texts work?

Example:

Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye

That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?

Exactly. Thats why you dont text boring crap like that. You dont ask her 'whats up?"

If you were at a party you would text something like this

"Hey, Im at a rager, and its super-bichin. Is that because you're not here to spoil it? :p"

her :"you're mean, blahblah"

you "you have exactly ten minutes to get here, or Im going to your moms house for sweet lovin"

her "hah,hah...."

you "im serious. If I dont see tonight, Im gonna jump off a bridge...And Im taking your puppy with me, so you better get here!"

End of Convo. Or...bug her till she caves in.

That shyt wont land you in the friendzone. "what are you up to?" will. Notice how that was both dominant, fun and flirty at the same time. "what are you up to?" is boring.

You dont have to stick to 2 or three texts, as long as you arent being needy, boring, or supplicating. Be sure to not respond right away to her texts though. You seem like you have more of a life if you dont answer right away.
 

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Avoid long texts at all costs keep it short and sweet. What I mean is that texts should be used in short messages and when giving commands to a girl. Also avoid replying right away. Keep them waiting, show that you are a busy guy by taking your time in replying to her.

example of a short message + giving a girl a command:
you: meet me at 12 infront of the cafeteria

avoid the following (long messages, keep these for actual talking on the phone or in person):
you: hey whats up! im doing ok i went to the mall yesterday to buy some jeans. After that i went to get a haircut you know. I had a great time with my friends the other day.

I personally would recommend keeping the c&f to a minimum as it can be misunderstood over texts sometimes. I ruined my chances of going out with 2 hot girls due to c&f over texts being misunderstood and them getting offended. A third one I went out with then I used a little too much c&f and i couldn't get to a second date. Now i'm in a cold streak haven't had a date for months. Be careful!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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just an update here because when I started flirting this way with this girl it just an experiment. We both have conflicting schedules so texting has been the best option.

each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:

damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.

it's a good thing I have toys

Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage
 

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sadora said:
just an update here because when I started flirting this way with this girl it just an experiment. We both have conflicting schedules so texting has been the best option.

each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:

damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.

it's a good thing I have toys

Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage
You're proud that when she's feeling horny, her first thought is her toys?
 

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Frankly the only time I use texting is when I'm in a bar or a noisy environment and speaking over the phone is difficult. Although some say that it's the "new way" to do communication, I still think it's dumb.

I didn't buy a phone so I could type with butchered grammar; I got a phone to call people.
 
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