Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She responded well to it thought.Captain said:That text message totally removed all the mystery from you. She knows you're into her now. She won't be wondering. You don't ever TELL a woman you're like her, you SHOW her (physically.)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You can't really be sure though, that's the problem with texting. It's just words, no tone o emotion. Allure is right, if you do send texts to a woman (flirting or otherwise) keep it down to 2 or 3.sadora said:She responded well to it thought.
GlennCoCo said:How would 2 to 3 texts work?
Example:
Me:Hey whats up?
Her:Nothing, you?
Me:Just at a party, why aren't you doing anything?
Her:Eh, my friends are out of town.
Me:Well that sucks, I'll ttyl ok?
Her:K bye
That makes no sense to me...start a conversation then end it?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You're proud that when she's feeling horny, her first thought is her toys?sadora said:just an update here because when I started flirting this way with this girl it just an experiment. We both have conflicting schedules so texting has been the best option.
each time I text her I make sure to make it flirty or sexual and to also draw back from conversations we've had. I've been definitely staying away from the "what are you up to?" questions and always staying on point.
here's the last two message she sent me:
damn you, now you got me thinking about sex.
it's a good thing I have toys
Sure they're just words but if you use them right they can work for your advantage