"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Flight or Fight mode....why?

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I went to the mall today with my family to go and buy some things, just a nice day out and what not. Nothing big, just a evening planned to go and enjoy the mall.

There where naturally girls my age there walking around with other guys and in packs, or by themseleves. There where all kinds of girls there, young old and girls my age also.

I am really concerned and actually extremely frustrated and mad that what I am about to explain always happen to me.

When I was walking in the mall, I noticed a increase in self conscience's, I was nervous and it was like I couldnt control the feelings inside my body and I was filled with fear just walking around with people in the mall.

I had to try extra hard to keep my calm and maintain a look of confidence and to make eye contact even if it was painful for me.

I feel like my stress level goes up as I go to places that where filled with people.

This makes me so mad, that I keep getting afraid and super self conscience everytime I go outside. I frustrates me so much and gets me very angry.

I was waiting for my family outside a store and a bunch of hot girls stodd about a foot from me and proceeded to talk and they stood right in front of me.

My blood pressure went through the roof, my heart started beating faster and I started to get a headache and I couldnt even get myself to make eye contact with the girls.

I hate when this happens to me that I cant even control how I react to a situation.

I hate it, it feels like Im about to go on a stage and make a speech with out being prepared.

I feel exposed and very vulnerable.

Im sitting in my home right now and I am calm but angry that everytime I go out that my strees level and my awareness rises and i cant even stand next to a group of girls without feeling like I am about to pass out and my breathing gets deep and faster.

Why does this happen?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What you are describing sounds like Social Phobia. This where considerable anxiety is experienced when in the presence of other people or in situations where interaction with other people is expected. Maybe you should see a therapist to try and bash out exactly where this anxiety stems from.
 

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Ya if its an ongoing thing go see a doctor.
 

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If it's not something you typically experience it may have been triggered by your family's presence. Perhaps you felt embarassed not because of them but because of how they might see you while interacting with any of the women there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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