there’s a show on my local radio station called second date update where a person who just had a date asks the radio station to call the other person because they're being ghosted.
Second Date Update is staged. Think about it. Who answers phone calls from an unknown number? Most people don't have a local radio station's number programmed into their phones.
Usually when it comes to OLD , you're in a big ratrace. Women these days have become like men in the sense that they'll talk to a buncha diff guys and try out diff flavors every week. They might see 2-3 dudes a week easily.. while still giving chances to the guys they seen last week. They usually have 1 or 2 guys they're super into but while they let it play out, they're still going on dates. I mean its casual dating 101.
The other thing about OLD is that, women who are OLD, a lot of them are looking for se.x .. especially if its TInder. They didn't get back on the app to find prince charming. They will entertain a few "fun dates" but mostly they're lookin for that sexual compatibility to get f-ed. If you don't capitalize on this, it simply means she didnt feel the vibe and moved on or you didn't know how to escalate and just didn't make a move. They'll be nice near the end and act like they wan to see you again because all women fear men having an adverse reaction to not having sex or to being told that a girl might not want to see u again..
The other thing is in these days of abundance for attractive women, women are lookin for any little thing to disqualify men so they have more of a reason to focus on that one guy they like the most. Believe it or not, women are hardwired for monogamy, and while we as humans evolved greatly, they will only play the field until they find a guy they deem compatible.. and usually everone else gets ghosted for a while when things get more serious with that one dude.
This is all perfect. Female abundance from tech-based dating methods is an important factor. Online dating websites were not an option for women until the 1990s, and they didn't gain much popularity until the mid-2000s. Even in the website era of online dating, women had abundance. Swipe apps took it to a new level and a larger % of women have been using swipe apps in the last 5-8 years as compared to women using dating websites 2006-2010.
Before dating websites and later swipe apps became the norm, the only way for a woman to achieve abundance was visiting bars multiple nights a week wearing provocative clothing. That's a lot more effort than sitting at home and uploading photos. Also, even if a woman visited bars multiple nights a week, she couldn't get nearly the level of abundance as compared to the internet.
With abundance, there's an expectation of "all the feelz" right now on first dates. A first date needs to go much better in the current era than in the early to mid 2000s in order for a 2nd date to happen.
Some first dates ending in sex can result in no second date, as well as same night lays from in-person bar approaching. There are a lot of reasons for that and exploring those might derail the thread. I think it is important to realize that. Intense physical chemistry without sex can be confusing for women too. Don't escalate big time (clothes removal) without completing sex and realize that sex on a first date or the same night from an in-person bar approach is no guarantee of future interaction.
@Fowo is likely experiencing issues based on the fact that he's arranging dates with women using swipe apps (and possibly social media DMs). He's mainly dealing with women with higher than average levels of abundance who received more "feelz" from dates with other men.