Flaked

[Aesthetix29]

okay so I've been texting this girl for a few weeks and we had arranged a date for today to go the zoo ... Anyway I've not heard from her since Wednesday? Everything was good she said she was really looking forward to it ... So today's the day and the Wethers not clever so I just messaged her saying that it's not exactly zoo weather so we can do something else ... Heard nothing yet. She's obviously flaked .. Why? What's happened since Wedneday?

 

[OsirisII]

Read abot online dating here on sosuave. Most of guys says that the 3rd message shold be a date appointment. And every woman will flake if there is low interest level at her side or just because she is a woman.
Now give time something like 4-5 days, try to make another appointment and when she says anything than YES or counter offer then NEXT her.

 

[cola]

Sometimes chicks just flake. Could be anything really.
But one tip I can give that may help is don't schedule dates so far out. Try to give it 2-3 days between time of scheduling and said date.
I.e ask her out on Tuesday for a Friday date.

Scheduling dates so far in advance gives her too much time to think about it.
So next time keep that in mind.

So what you do here is reinitiate contact in about 2 weeks like nothing happend and schedule another date. If ig doesnt work then, than forget her and move on.

 

[marmel75]

The more time you spend texting back and forth before meeting the higher the chance she will flake...likely you said something in those conversations that turned her off or something she took the wrong way.

This is why you meet ASAP...anything than other than face to face contact is going to increase your chances for a bad outcome

 

[thatfeel]

Yep, it's best to treat a girl you're texting and have never met as if she thinks you don't even exist. You want to meet her as soon as possible to dispel that.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Okay lesson learned ... The thing was she was texting me and if I didn't reply wouldn't she just think that I'm ignorant, playing games etc... ? I mean she was posting pics on FB with her friends etc .. Last night! So she's not blocked me or anything. But I'll just next anyway pointless flogging a dead horse.

I've obviously said or done something to put her off. Oh well think I might leave women alone for a while not really doing me any favours.

There was a girl I was dating/seeing las month which I still really like but can't see me turning that around anytime soon if ever.

Lifes sh!t at the moment!

 

[om1xr]

with texting you should be inconsistent, sometimes you text her all day, another day you reply to her and after 2 or 3 texts you say " I have to go now" , other times you ignore her...etc. you get the idea. and let's be honest here if you really have a life you are going to do this naturally.

as for flakes, girls are going to flake if they are not into you or whatever. as for scheduling you shouldn't plan a date far ahead; maybe try to not get past 2 days or 3 days. schedule weekends meeting during weekdays and weekdays dates during weekends; you get the idea.

as for confirming dates it depends but the best course is to text here in the morning if you have a night date something like " we still on tonight" if she is a new girl. that way you avoid wasting your time. and if she did not respond just make other plans and if she reply with a fake or can't make it you can give her another chance by something like " ok np; I will meet some friend then, how about day/time next week" .... if she replies with a confirmation then good and if she seems hesitant you know the answer...delete that number and if she contact you again then you decide to say yes or no.

it's not black and white...girls are going to flake. another issue is you shouldn't be too serious with texting. be funny, and avoid sarcasm because that sh!t don't translate well with texting...I've experienced with a lot of girls and the best course it to avoid sarcasm unless you and the girl know each other well. if she is a new girl avoid that sh!t.

 

[ubercat]

Very wrong. Your life is always there and u r not defined by your woman or lack of woman.

 

[Yewki]

I've obviously said or done something to put her off.

No. She obviously did something to put you off

She flaked and then ignored you. You can try again later if you want, but let's be real... she messed up

 

[RangerMIke]

The Sun rises in the east and sets in the west.... Women flake. Get used to it. @Espi said " Don't waste a second of your time wondering why they flake. Knowing why will not change anything." So true.... why she flaked doesn't really matter, stop blaming yourself. This sh!t happens with chicks all the time, it really isn't you, all it means is at that particular moment she has low interest in you. Go date other women.