She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I always do what works for me, which is something more guys need to understand. What works for on person on this forum does not always work for another even if they do it exactly the same way. People need to experiment with what works for them and not be so focused on rules.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No they are not. Flakes are low interest level. You talking to her before the date has nothing to do with it.
So much this....
So far I think that you set up the date. And then just ping them every once in a while. If you go ghost they probably won’t show. And if you text too much you kill the attraction. So just an occasional ping. I find that Snapchat works pretty good for this. Messages disappear so even if you screw up in what you say they can’t look back on it And start analyzing lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.