"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fixing extreme approval/validation seeking personality

Baibars

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Hi i watched a Red Pill Video today and it was about approval/validation seeking. Found out that this is something women usually do so it's feminine. A man doesn't need the approval of others. He just does what he wants to do and '' the tribe '' don't have to give him validation or approval.
Women are dependent on the tribe so they need that approval.
Women assimilated themselves in order to survive, men usually didn't do that. They died.

He gave many other examples but my question to you guys is how do i fix these obviously feminine behaviour in myself?
I'm someone who values others opinions way too much.
Whenever i go out i'm fixated on other people and their opinion on me. I want to get validated by other women, by my ex who dumped me, by almost everyone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mrgoodstuff

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Hi i watched a Red Pill Video today and it was about approval/validation seeking. Found out that this is something women usually do so it's feminine. A man doesn't need the approval of others. He just does what he wants to do and '' the tribe '' don't have to give him validation or approval.
Women are dependent on the tribe so they need that approval.
Women assimilated themselves in order to survive, men usually didn't do that. They died.

He gave many other examples but my question to you guys is how do i fix these obviously feminine behaviour in myself?
I'm someone who values others opinions way too much.
Whenever i go out i'm fixated on other people and their opinion on me. I want to get validated by other women, by my ex who dumped me, by almost everyone.
Make yourself responsible and work your way up by keeping yourself accountable. Stop waiting for someone to help you. Impress yourself.
 
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