stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
45 minute run today
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Fitness journal
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
26:02
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
weight training and running today
17:00 two mile time. Felt like absolute **** because of my diet/pushing myself...
so ran some 400s at a 1:30 pace
17:00 two mile time. Felt like absolute **** because of my diet/pushing myself...
so ran some 400s at a 1:30 pace
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:50
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
couple of good two mile times lately, will do a 45 minute run tomorrow
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
5 mile run tonight 45 mins, felt really good
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
so boxing practice has involved lots of running so I haven't been running pure 5ks as much but am planning on running one tomorrow to see where I am timewise. i am hoping for around 24:30 but we will see.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:50 tonight
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
just ran a 25:19 tonight, haven't been running as much, boxing a lot more
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:40 last night
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran an old route at my parents house that used to take me 30 minutes about two months ago in 25 minutes tonight. A big improvement, but still lots of room for improvement.
Most of the guys at my boxing gym are in much better cardiovascular shape than I am, however I have been making improvements. The workouts have been completely exhausting.
Most of the guys at my boxing gym are in much better cardiovascular shape than I am, however I have been making improvements. The workouts have been completely exhausting.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Let me break down weight loss for you, eating less calories than you burn each day. You don't have to go to some fancy camp to do that.jhonbardeen said:
Anyways ran a 14:20 2 mile today for a boxing try out and the cut off was 14:00- I was pretty close. I will be able to get it next month for sure I think.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Been doing a lot of stair work lately. Did forty minutes of stadium runs today :box:
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a 24:20 5k today, felt like I almost could break 24 minutes. I hope this comes soon.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a lot of stairs and sprints last night. Actually got invited to join the boxing squad which was a little unexpected due to my times missing their requirements by a little bit. I think it was a combination of good attendance and continual improvement
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a lot of killer hills and sprints tonight plus some heavy bag work
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
diasppointing news, tried to run tonight but my SI joint was out and it was too painful- only made it 400m before stopping. I think this happened either due to sleeping on it wrong or bending over too much fixing my messed up sink. I have been having problems with it before, and I think it should clear up by an update on Thursday.
Boxing has been going really well, I have been doing a lot of random road work and stair drills. I wanted to see how this
Boxing has been going really well, I have been doing a lot of random road work and stair drills. I wanted to see how this
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:20 again today, ran 3 miles and some stairs on Friday. Again I felt really close to breaking the 24 minute barrier
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Update I am down from a 31-30 to a 29 pants size and am sitting at 173 down five pounds since I started the thread in June.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
40 minute run tonight
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.