stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
45 minute run today
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
26:02
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
weight training and running today
17:00 two mile time. Felt like absolute **** because of my diet/pushing myself...
so ran some 400s at a 1:30 pace
17:00 two mile time. Felt like absolute **** because of my diet/pushing myself...
so ran some 400s at a 1:30 pace
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:50
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
couple of good two mile times lately, will do a 45 minute run tomorrow
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
5 mile run tonight 45 mins, felt really good
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
so boxing practice has involved lots of running so I haven't been running pure 5ks as much but am planning on running one tomorrow to see where I am timewise. i am hoping for around 24:30 but we will see.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:50 tonight
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
just ran a 25:19 tonight, haven't been running as much, boxing a lot more
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:40 last night
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran an old route at my parents house that used to take me 30 minutes about two months ago in 25 minutes tonight. A big improvement, but still lots of room for improvement.
Most of the guys at my boxing gym are in much better cardiovascular shape than I am, however I have been making improvements. The workouts have been completely exhausting.
Most of the guys at my boxing gym are in much better cardiovascular shape than I am, however I have been making improvements. The workouts have been completely exhausting.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Let me break down weight loss for you, eating less calories than you burn each day. You don't have to go to some fancy camp to do that.jhonbardeen said:
Anyways ran a 14:20 2 mile today for a boxing try out and the cut off was 14:00- I was pretty close. I will be able to get it next month for sure I think.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Been doing a lot of stair work lately. Did forty minutes of stadium runs today :box:
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a 24:20 5k today, felt like I almost could break 24 minutes. I hope this comes soon.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a lot of stairs and sprints last night. Actually got invited to join the boxing squad which was a little unexpected due to my times missing their requirements by a little bit. I think it was a combination of good attendance and continual improvement
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
ran a lot of killer hills and sprints tonight plus some heavy bag work
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
diasppointing news, tried to run tonight but my SI joint was out and it was too painful- only made it 400m before stopping. I think this happened either due to sleeping on it wrong or bending over too much fixing my messed up sink. I have been having problems with it before, and I think it should clear up by an update on Thursday.
Boxing has been going really well, I have been doing a lot of random road work and stair drills. I wanted to see how this
Boxing has been going really well, I have been doing a lot of random road work and stair drills. I wanted to see how this
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
24:20 again today, ran 3 miles and some stairs on Friday. Again I felt really close to breaking the 24 minute barrier
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
Update I am down from a 31-30 to a 29 pants size and am sitting at 173 down five pounds since I started the thread in June.
stephen_dedalus
Don Juan
40 minute run tonight
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.