Really never thought it would happen. Been dating this broad for about 8 months. I'm 30, she's 25. Gave her good sex, was never needy, only committed after she brought up exclusivity. The red flags were there however. Something didn't feel right, just shows that you always trust your gut instinct. Multiple men over a 3-4 month period. Girl is damaged goods, doesn't make it hurt any less though. Just reaching out here, anything y'all have to say helps. I'm not going back to her.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
First time being cheated on
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
sazc
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I'm sorry this happened to you. I've been cheated on a few times too. The one thing I have always known in my heart, is that cheating is caused by a major character flaw in THE OTHER person. You did nothing wrong to cause it. Its her issues and baggage that caused it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What part of exclusivity is confusing to you?
Lack of respect, game playing, poor communication. She still put out on the regular though, in fact, nearly always initiated. Who knows. Could be a sex addict?
sazc
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Well, okay....I'm going to suggest that you need to raise your standards when it comes to females that you are exclusive with. Expect that they are going to behave as an adult.
When a female starts the game playing, etc, ASK her WTF is going on. If she tries to deny it is occurring, relegate her to plate status and start looking for other females.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
QuadDeuces
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Show indifference, don't let her see you emotionally hurt. (Thats what your buddies are for)
Don't create drama, just smile and say "OK" this will hurt her ego alot, if you create drama she will pity you and disrespect you.
Don't create drama, just smile and say "OK" this will hurt her ego alot, if you create drama she will pity you and disrespect you.
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Only solution is to always have one foot out the door and never trust a woman fully. That way you expect the unexpected and there are no surprises.
Guard your emotions like your checkbook. You'll be alright for next time if you are always just a bit more detached from the relationship than she is.
Guard your emotions like your checkbook. You'll be alright for next time if you are always just a bit more detached from the relationship than she is.
What part about it has to be her decision do you not understand?
devilkingx2
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like how food that tastes good is a huge red flag for unhealthiness?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Yup, some cvnts just broadside you with this stuff. I had that happen once as well. This is what caused me to have a no tolerance policy on male friends when I'm in an exclusive relationship. If my attention isn't enough for her, then NONE of my attention is good enough for her.
This 5hit happens. It was only 8 months, so it shouldn't take too long to recover from that. I generally don't expect much within the first year from any woman.
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Why did you commit to her before making her drop her men?
When she asks to be the boyfriend, you tell her to drop everyone. All men. Exes. Male friends. Everyone. If she so much as hesitates you tell her to keep things the way they are. Repeat until she drops them all. If she lies, that means she was a low integrity trash bag and you shouldn't be dating her anyway.
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She's the wrong chick but you at least have to try your hand at negotiating. If she doesn't want to drop her men it's pretty clear she doesn't value the OP. If she flat out lies, she's a low integrity slvt and she's out.
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We don't know how much of it is her nature and how much of it is respect. Men have to make women work. Women want to earn love. OP brings it up from the jump all of a sudden she has to make a decision. Women don't lie... men don't listen. She didn't like the OP enough. A woman in love doesn't cheat.
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How do you figure? What kind of attitude is that? You must set your boundaries and dare her to push them. If she values you, she won't cross them.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.