"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First new girl lay in 3.5 months

Zarky

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Just pulled a chick from OK Cupid. 6 face, 6 body. Nothing to write home about but a standard, friendly, easy girl. She and I matched 95% which means she answered positively to the easy-sex questions.

Sent her a generic cut and paste along with about 30 other women one day. She responded well to my overtly sexual profile. We set up a date near her. Had some drinks, went back to her place and banged it out.

One of the simplest lays so far, with the exception that she's a totally passive chick and that made her difficult to read. No drama whatsoever though. At least not yet.

I wrote about this in another thread.. that passive chicks are hard to game because you never know if what you're doing is working or not.

After the drinks, when we were standing by her car, she seemed to be so uninterested that I very nearly, very nearly just turned and left. I thought she had no desire at all. Fortunately I decided to say, "So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok." Kind of a strange interaction.

She was also a passive rag-doll in bed. I basically had to boss her around and she did everything I wanted but she was kind of quiet and made no attempt to initiate anything. Seemed perfectly willing to do what I instructed though. Felt as though I could have said "Now I'm going to piss in your mouth" and she would have replied, "Ok."

So, feels good 'cause she's the first new girl of 2013 and the first new girl since late Sept 2012. I banged 8 new girls last year and I'm two away from my "40 by 40" badge. I also have one "girlfriend" I've been seeing since June of last year, and we screw once every week or so. The other girlfriend from Jan of last year dropped out in December because she realized I'd never marry her.

At this point I've banged a total of 16 from POF and only 6 from OKC, but the last 5 out of 6 have been from OKC so that site seems to be on a roll.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good stuff Zarky, sex attracts more sex :cheer:

From experience, passive women respond very well to BOLD game.
Zarky said:
"So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok."
Bingo
 

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yeah, that stuff has always been difficult for me. Probably lost out on a half-dozen lays by not being bold enough.

This girl wasn't exactly my greatest achievement or anything but it's always a morale boost to bang a new one.
 

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Awesome. Keep her on your roster maybe?
 

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Hey Zarky, sorry to hijack this, but I had to ask you something.

I read some of your blog posts about a month ago and I was really curious as to how the heck you maintain long-term relationships of a couple years or longer that remain open? I have a hard time seeing how to get a woman to agree to that.

Anyway, I tried to pm you but couldn't, and I didn't want to make a thread saying "hey zarky come over here" lol. So if you could make a post or thread about this stuff, I would be very grateful and interested in reading it. When your blog mentioned "different girls for different needs", it really got me thinking about what I want out of women and dating.

Nice lay..I decided a short while ago that online dating was a waste of time. Maybe I should give it another shot...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Most if women I met from POF or OK have already decided to have sex with me at the first date the moment they agreed to the date , but I lost a lot of them by playing the bad advise of "pretend you are not interested in sex in the first date" , it was really bad advise . most of them look for booty-call so dont hesitate to escalate
 

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Please tell me that you don't really live in Cali and you're gaming online. *palm face*
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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