"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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First new girl lay in 3.5 months

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Just pulled a chick from OK Cupid. 6 face, 6 body. Nothing to write home about but a standard, friendly, easy girl. She and I matched 95% which means she answered positively to the easy-sex questions.

Sent her a generic cut and paste along with about 30 other women one day. She responded well to my overtly sexual profile. We set up a date near her. Had some drinks, went back to her place and banged it out.

One of the simplest lays so far, with the exception that she's a totally passive chick and that made her difficult to read. No drama whatsoever though. At least not yet.

I wrote about this in another thread.. that passive chicks are hard to game because you never know if what you're doing is working or not.

After the drinks, when we were standing by her car, she seemed to be so uninterested that I very nearly, very nearly just turned and left. I thought she had no desire at all. Fortunately I decided to say, "So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok." Kind of a strange interaction.

She was also a passive rag-doll in bed. I basically had to boss her around and she did everything I wanted but she was kind of quiet and made no attempt to initiate anything. Seemed perfectly willing to do what I instructed though. Felt as though I could have said "Now I'm going to piss in your mouth" and she would have replied, "Ok."

So, feels good 'cause she's the first new girl of 2013 and the first new girl since late Sept 2012. I banged 8 new girls last year and I'm two away from my "40 by 40" badge. I also have one "girlfriend" I've been seeing since June of last year, and we screw once every week or so. The other girlfriend from Jan of last year dropped out in December because she realized I'd never marry her.

At this point I've banged a total of 16 from POF and only 6 from OKC, but the last 5 out of 6 have been from OKC so that site seems to be on a roll.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good stuff Zarky, sex attracts more sex :cheer:

From experience, passive women respond very well to BOLD game.
Zarky said:
"So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok."
Bingo
 

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yeah, that stuff has always been difficult for me. Probably lost out on a half-dozen lays by not being bold enough.

This girl wasn't exactly my greatest achievement or anything but it's always a morale boost to bang a new one.
 

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Awesome. Keep her on your roster maybe?
 

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Hey Zarky, sorry to hijack this, but I had to ask you something.

I read some of your blog posts about a month ago and I was really curious as to how the heck you maintain long-term relationships of a couple years or longer that remain open? I have a hard time seeing how to get a woman to agree to that.

Anyway, I tried to pm you but couldn't, and I didn't want to make a thread saying "hey zarky come over here" lol. So if you could make a post or thread about this stuff, I would be very grateful and interested in reading it. When your blog mentioned "different girls for different needs", it really got me thinking about what I want out of women and dating.

Nice lay..I decided a short while ago that online dating was a waste of time. Maybe I should give it another shot...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Most if women I met from POF or OK have already decided to have sex with me at the first date the moment they agreed to the date , but I lost a lot of them by playing the bad advise of "pretend you are not interested in sex in the first date" , it was really bad advise . most of them look for booty-call so dont hesitate to escalate
 

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Please tell me that you don't really live in Cali and you're gaming online. *palm face*
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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