"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First new girl lay in 3.5 months

Zarky

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Just pulled a chick from OK Cupid. 6 face, 6 body. Nothing to write home about but a standard, friendly, easy girl. She and I matched 95% which means she answered positively to the easy-sex questions.

Sent her a generic cut and paste along with about 30 other women one day. She responded well to my overtly sexual profile. We set up a date near her. Had some drinks, went back to her place and banged it out.

One of the simplest lays so far, with the exception that she's a totally passive chick and that made her difficult to read. No drama whatsoever though. At least not yet.

I wrote about this in another thread.. that passive chicks are hard to game because you never know if what you're doing is working or not.

After the drinks, when we were standing by her car, she seemed to be so uninterested that I very nearly, very nearly just turned and left. I thought she had no desire at all. Fortunately I decided to say, "So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok." Kind of a strange interaction.

She was also a passive rag-doll in bed. I basically had to boss her around and she did everything I wanted but she was kind of quiet and made no attempt to initiate anything. Seemed perfectly willing to do what I instructed though. Felt as though I could have said "Now I'm going to piss in your mouth" and she would have replied, "Ok."

So, feels good 'cause she's the first new girl of 2013 and the first new girl since late Sept 2012. I banged 8 new girls last year and I'm two away from my "40 by 40" badge. I also have one "girlfriend" I've been seeing since June of last year, and we screw once every week or so. The other girlfriend from Jan of last year dropped out in December because she realized I'd never marry her.

At this point I've banged a total of 16 from POF and only 6 from OKC, but the last 5 out of 6 have been from OKC so that site seems to be on a roll.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good stuff Zarky, sex attracts more sex :cheer:

From experience, passive women respond very well to BOLD game.
Zarky said:
"So, are you going to invite me back to your place?" and she smiled and said "Ok."
Bingo
 

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yeah, that stuff has always been difficult for me. Probably lost out on a half-dozen lays by not being bold enough.

This girl wasn't exactly my greatest achievement or anything but it's always a morale boost to bang a new one.
 

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Awesome. Keep her on your roster maybe?
 

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Hey Zarky, sorry to hijack this, but I had to ask you something.

I read some of your blog posts about a month ago and I was really curious as to how the heck you maintain long-term relationships of a couple years or longer that remain open? I have a hard time seeing how to get a woman to agree to that.

Anyway, I tried to pm you but couldn't, and I didn't want to make a thread saying "hey zarky come over here" lol. So if you could make a post or thread about this stuff, I would be very grateful and interested in reading it. When your blog mentioned "different girls for different needs", it really got me thinking about what I want out of women and dating.

Nice lay..I decided a short while ago that online dating was a waste of time. Maybe I should give it another shot...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Most if women I met from POF or OK have already decided to have sex with me at the first date the moment they agreed to the date , but I lost a lot of them by playing the bad advise of "pretend you are not interested in sex in the first date" , it was really bad advise . most of them look for booty-call so dont hesitate to escalate
 

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Please tell me that you don't really live in Cali and you're gaming online. *palm face*
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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