She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i dont eat much chocolate...its women food, real men dont eat that crap. Got some beef jerky?penkitten said:
you mean heath.joekerr31 said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
So i was at Chevron this morning getting my daily Starbucks Doubleshot before heading off for school, and i wanted to try those Salsa Sunchips somebody was talking about last night in the chat while they were high saying how good they were, i dont find it...but i did discover that....THEY BOUGHT BACK FLAMIN HOT FUNYUNS!!!! YAY!!!Ken785 said:http://guacamoledoritos.ytmnd.com/
GUACAMOLE DORITOS HAVE BEEN DISCONTINUED!!!!
This is the same way i felt when I found out they discontinued Flamin' Hot Funyuns. Remember those?? man they were great!
do a search for "sosuave chat"MacAvoy said:
Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.Ken785 said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
people go in and out all the time, but usually they miss everyone else.MacAvoy said:
Even though youre trying to be sarcastic, thanks for sounding so positive about it Mr. Positive..Mr.Positive said:Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.
Let's all learn from this, it's the simple pleasures in life that really matter. Like our favorite funyun chip.
Life really is pretty damn good.
Thanks Ken.
Actually Ken, I was being serious to some extent. We make life more difficult than it needs to be...and we tend to overlook the small things we enjoy.Ken785 said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.