You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i dont eat much chocolate...its women food, real men dont eat that crap. Got some beef jerky?penkitten said:
you mean heath.joekerr31 said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So i was at Chevron this morning getting my daily Starbucks Doubleshot before heading off for school, and i wanted to try those Salsa Sunchips somebody was talking about last night in the chat while they were high saying how good they were, i dont find it...but i did discover that....THEY BOUGHT BACK FLAMIN HOT FUNYUNS!!!! YAY!!!Ken785 said:http://guacamoledoritos.ytmnd.com/
GUACAMOLE DORITOS HAVE BEEN DISCONTINUED!!!!
This is the same way i felt when I found out they discontinued Flamin' Hot Funyuns. Remember those?? man they were great!
do a search for "sosuave chat"MacAvoy said:
Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.Ken785 said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
people go in and out all the time, but usually they miss everyone else.MacAvoy said:
Even though youre trying to be sarcastic, thanks for sounding so positive about it Mr. Positive..Mr.Positive said:Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.
Let's all learn from this, it's the simple pleasures in life that really matter. Like our favorite funyun chip.
Life really is pretty damn good.
Thanks Ken.
Actually Ken, I was being serious to some extent. We make life more difficult than it needs to be...and we tend to overlook the small things we enjoy.Ken785 said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.