Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i dont eat much chocolate...its women food, real men dont eat that crap. Got some beef jerky?penkitten said:
you mean heath.joekerr31 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So i was at Chevron this morning getting my daily Starbucks Doubleshot before heading off for school, and i wanted to try those Salsa Sunchips somebody was talking about last night in the chat while they were high saying how good they were, i dont find it...but i did discover that....THEY BOUGHT BACK FLAMIN HOT FUNYUNS!!!! YAY!!!Ken785 said:http://guacamoledoritos.ytmnd.com/
GUACAMOLE DORITOS HAVE BEEN DISCONTINUED!!!!
This is the same way i felt when I found out they discontinued Flamin' Hot Funyuns. Remember those?? man they were great!
do a search for "sosuave chat"MacAvoy said:
Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.Ken785 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
people go in and out all the time, but usually they miss everyone else.MacAvoy said:
Even though youre trying to be sarcastic, thanks for sounding so positive about it Mr. Positive..Mr.Positive said:Way to go Ken, your best thread yet.
Let's all learn from this, it's the simple pleasures in life that really matter. Like our favorite funyun chip.
Life really is pretty damn good.
Thanks Ken.
Actually Ken, I was being serious to some extent. We make life more difficult than it needs to be...and we tend to overlook the small things we enjoy.Ken785 said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.