strams4ever
Don Juan
Should be pretty kickass, I'll be going to a new school where I don't know anyone. I'm going to get a good start right off the bat by getting loads of #'s. Ill be a freshman also. Any tips from a veteran highschooler?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
These to groups can make a great combanation when done right.I have the dont give a F*** attitude of a stoner,but dress more like a skater.Always smileing,laughing and being in an all around good mood will bring out the stoner side,and acting like your the king of the world will help bring out the skater style in most people.Originally posted by pimpfromdayone
skater group- self explanatory... I might also note that many girls are into the skater guys these days
stoner clique- Many people in highschool are potheads, but these are the guys who openly admit it and carry the pothead persona. They have the don't give a fu-ck attitude as well. Strangely enough, stoners are usually pretty popular people.
Originally posted by pimpfromdayone
From someone who has graduated highschool, I can offer a bit of advice if you want to have as much success with girls as possible (and in doing so, keep it from feeling like a hellish experience). See, highschool is all about popularity and the characterisitic "cliques." To get women, you need the high social status. If you don't have it, it is going to be a lot harder with them..... I learned this the hard way because I was just too mature for that shi-t and was individualistic, and REFUSED to conform to a certain clique or hang out with certain people, and my success with women wasn't near as good as it could be if I had made half an effort to be popular, but ohhhhhhh, if I only had it to do over. Here are my tips for the absolute easiest way through:
Join clubs, play sports. Playing football or basketball basically GUARANTEES you will be popular and seen a lot and therefore, wanted by women. This is also an easy way into a popular "jock" clique, which, unsuprisingly, is usually the most popular clique of all.
Make a lot of friends, become good friends and hang out with the most popular guys in the school. In time, you should be one of them.
Also, of somewhat lesser importance but still valuable, make friends with many girls, but try not to be best friends with girls you are interested in dating (duh). The friends=fu-cked thing I like to say holds true in highschool as well.
Be outgoing and really sociable. You have to get yourself noticed to be really popular. You have to be involved in things, such as mentioned above, or you could for instance be a class clown (I hated those bast-ards). The bad guys in highschool (you know, the ones who end up dropping out and just generally don't give a fu-ck about anything), are usually pretty successful with women too, so if you are naturally a badly behaving kid, use it to your advantage.
While it is true that there are many ways to success, in highschool the one rule that holds true is that people who are popular usually have more success with girls there.
There are some people who don't belong to a particular clique of course. Most real cliques are relatively flexible in that new people could come in, but if you don't have the right personality or status it might not work right.
A quick listing of male cliques I observed, from the best possible one you could be in to the worst:
jock group- most popular kids in the school. There were actually I think two of these, but they were somewhat connect together.
various groups of preppy popular guys, number depends on size of school. Dressed in polos and most of them come from relatively well-to-do families.
some popular girl cliques who have a few guys in them
skater group- self explanatory... I might also note that many girls are into the skater guys these days
stoner clique- Many people in highschool are potheads, but these are the guys who openly admit it and carry the pothead persona. They have the don't give a fu-ck attitude as well. Strangely enough, stoners are usually pretty popular people.
various groups of relatively unpopular guys who just group up
rednecks- yes, sadly, there are girls who like redneck guys, at least in my school there were
nerd group(s)- there is usually at least one of these. I was in AP classes and was good friends with a lot of smart guys who simply lacked good social skills, but they are often the least successful of all when it comes to women, which is why it was a mistake for me to be seen a lot with them (sounds bad I know, but it is highschool).
goth group- ugh.... unless you like goth girls
Well, that is a basic idea for you. Not having any clique is not really bad, it will just limit your success with women, especially since you have noone to hang out with and meet girls with.
Have fun.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.