"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im new to this website and i just recently got my first phone # of the year. Shes pretty hot and semi interested in me. Im going to call her and ask her out on a date. Our conversational skills arent too great, so do u think the first date should be in a group (better conversations) or just the two of us (risk of being awkward). Im 16 by the way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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semi-interested? SEMI-INTERESTED? That's not the attitude to have, man. Operate from the standpoint that this chick wants YOU and she has to prove she's interesting and worth spending time with to YOU. Conversation is no big deal. It isn't rocket science. Just learn how to vibe (read the Mini-Bible) if you don't already and you're good. The biggest thing, though, is not to be incredibly concerned with this date. Call her and tell you that you just want to have some fun and go do it.
 
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YOU AND HER.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Actually ur prob still half AFC so go on a group day with one of your pimp buddy who is used to going out on dates. Just follow his lead and learn from him. If you want to crash and burn then go ahead and go on a one on one date.
 
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I'd recommend going by yourself. If you have a group date its going to be harder to isolate because your with the group. An also she won't have any obstacles. (the other girl) I know you don't want everything going good and you want to isolate, but then the other girl asks where yall going and want to come along and any other things that can stop you.
 
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