Im new to this website and i just recently got my first phone # of the year. Shes pretty hot and semi interested in me. Im going to call her and ask her out on a date. Our conversational skills arent too great, so do u think the first date should be in a group (better conversations) or just the two of us (risk of being awkward). Im 16 by the way.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
First Date
- Thread starter saber101
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
semi-interested? SEMI-INTERESTED? That's not the attitude to have, man. Operate from the standpoint that this chick wants YOU and she has to prove she's interesting and worth spending time with to YOU. Conversation is no big deal. It isn't rocket science. Just learn how to vibe (read the Mini-Bible) if you don't already and you're good. The biggest thing, though, is not to be incredibly concerned with this date. Call her and tell you that you just want to have some fun and go do it.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
YOU AND HER.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
Actually ur prob still half AFC so go on a group day with one of your pimp buddy who is used to going out on dates. Just follow his lead and learn from him. If you want to crash and burn then go ahead and go on a one on one date.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
I'd recommend going by yourself. If you have a group date its going to be harder to isolate because your with the group. An also she won't have any obstacles. (the other girl) I know you don't want everything going good and you want to isolate, but then the other girl asks where yall going and want to come along and any other things that can stop you.