Im new to this website and i just recently got my first phone # of the year. Shes pretty hot and semi interested in me. Im going to call her and ask her out on a date. Our conversational skills arent too great, so do u think the first date should be in a group (better conversations) or just the two of us (risk of being awkward). Im 16 by the way.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
First Date
- Thread starter saber101
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
semi-interested? SEMI-INTERESTED? That's not the attitude to have, man. Operate from the standpoint that this chick wants YOU and she has to prove she's interesting and worth spending time with to YOU. Conversation is no big deal. It isn't rocket science. Just learn how to vibe (read the Mini-Bible) if you don't already and you're good. The biggest thing, though, is not to be incredibly concerned with this date. Call her and tell you that you just want to have some fun and go do it.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
YOU AND HER.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
Actually ur prob still half AFC so go on a group day with one of your pimp buddy who is used to going out on dates. Just follow his lead and learn from him. If you want to crash and burn then go ahead and go on a one on one date.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
I'd recommend going by yourself. If you have a group date its going to be harder to isolate because your with the group. An also she won't have any obstacles. (the other girl) I know you don't want everything going good and you want to isolate, but then the other girl asks where yall going and want to come along and any other things that can stop you.