Im new to this website and i just recently got my first phone # of the year. Shes pretty hot and semi interested in me. Im going to call her and ask her out on a date. Our conversational skills arent too great, so do u think the first date should be in a group (better conversations) or just the two of us (risk of being awkward). Im 16 by the way.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
First Date
- Thread starter saber101
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
semi-interested? SEMI-INTERESTED? That's not the attitude to have, man. Operate from the standpoint that this chick wants YOU and she has to prove she's interesting and worth spending time with to YOU. Conversation is no big deal. It isn't rocket science. Just learn how to vibe (read the Mini-Bible) if you don't already and you're good. The biggest thing, though, is not to be incredibly concerned with this date. Call her and tell you that you just want to have some fun and go do it.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
YOU AND HER.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
Actually ur prob still half AFC so go on a group day with one of your pimp buddy who is used to going out on dates. Just follow his lead and learn from him. If you want to crash and burn then go ahead and go on a one on one date.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
I'd recommend going by yourself. If you have a group date its going to be harder to isolate because your with the group. An also she won't have any obstacles. (the other girl) I know you don't want everything going good and you want to isolate, but then the other girl asks where yall going and want to come along and any other things that can stop you.