"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First date...woman offers to buy you drink...how do you handle?

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Not opposed to it I guess, and I'd consider it a good sign if she wants to spend money on you, just wondering how you guys handle it? It's been happening quite often...three out of last four dates.

However, on other hand I guess I could be seen as cheap if I let them buy it on a first date, but its not like I am asking them to do it, they are offering.

Did have a situation occur where the woman said I'll buy it but you have to go get it...sh!t test?

Thoughts overall?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tictac said:
Buy the second round.
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I always buy the first round without hesitation...it usually happens on the second round when they offer, sometimes the 3rd...
 
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I buy the first round and then expect them to at least offer to buy the second.
 
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Don't see anything wrong with them offering to buy you a drink as long as you don't explicitly ask them to. They wouldn't offer buy a drink for someone they aren't interested in, plus it might help them get a little invested in you...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't think it matters that much in a situation like this, though I always pay... the cost of a drink isn't worth really worrying about one way or the other and while there is virtually no chance you turn a girl off by offering to pay, there's a chance (often a good one, depending on your frame/the girl/the situation/where you are geographically) you'll come off as a cheap bastard if you don't pay, so if the cost of the drink won't change your life, might as well pay.
 
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