"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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First Date tips and reminders

Hikapo

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Going on my first lunch date in 6 months.

DJ Reminders I have for myself

1) Don't talk to much about yourself. Focus on her.
2) Kino.
3) Be myself.


Anymore guys? Give me more reminders please.

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A little background with this girl:

Met her at my doctor's office. She is a receptionist there. I visit my doctor once a month. I asked her out on the 6th month(which is now). Took me the 3rd visit to start a conversation and got to know her a little. She moved from Georgia 6 months ago. Has a friendly and bubbly personality.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Kailex

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Don't mention the second date.
Don't compliment too much.
Don't talk about a future together.
Don't say "I love you".
Don't bite her ear off.
 

Matt281

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Don't concern yourself with little sh!t. Relax and be engaged with her rather than thinking about all the stupid little pickup tips you've heard, and it'll go fine.
 

Slickster

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Start to finish

Big smiles and kino when you meet her
Funny or interesting story about something that just happened to you recently. Gets the ball rolling.
Keep the conversation light and fun.
No talk about relationships, past ex's, or future dates
Ask open ended questions.
Let her do most of the talking and look interested.
Lunch should be cheap so pay the bill. If she offers great but tell her you've got this one.
After the bill a little more convo but start looking for your out.
Be the one to end the date first
Don't linger when saying goodbye
End it with a simple smile and "It was good seeing you. Talk to you soon"
Be gone in a flash like you have someplace to be.


My plan for first dates is keep it simple, fun, and short. I like to act positive, interested, and like I'm genuinely enjoying her company. However I end the date quickly with no kino, no kiss and no mention of a future meeting. I want her to go from feeling like I was really interested to totally unsure. A pull-push if you will. Leave her feeling like it was an awesome date but she doesn't know if she'll see you again. I sometimes do this for the first 2 or 3 dates.

Some of the girls I've done this to in the past became gf's and told me that those first dates drove them crazy! They had no idea if I was interested or not. Also everyone of them raved about how great our first kiss was later on. They were literally dying for it.
 

sebastian11

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Slickster said:
Start to finish

Big smiles and kino when you meet her
Funny or interesting story about something that just happened to you recently. Gets the ball rolling.
Keep the conversation light and fun.
No talk about relationships, past ex's, or future dates
Ask open ended questions.
Let her do most of the talking and look interested.
Lunch should be cheap so pay the bill. If she offers great but tell her you've got this one.
After the bill a little more convo but start looking for your out.
Be the one to end the date first
Don't linger when saying goodbye
End it with a simple smile and "It was good seeing you. Talk to you soon"
Be gone in a flash like you have someplace to be.


My plan for first dates is keep it simple, fun, and short. I like to act positive, interested, and like I'm genuinely enjoying her company. However I end the date quickly with no kino, no kiss and no mention of a future meeting. I want her to go from feeling like I was really interested to totally unsure. A pull-push if you will. Leave her feeling like it was an awesome date but she doesn't know if she'll see you again. I sometimes do this for the first 2 or 3 dates.

Some of the girls I've done this to in the past became gf's and told me that those first dates drove them crazy! They had no idea if I was interested or not. Also everyone of them raved about how great our first kiss was later on. They were literally dying for it.
no kino? i think that's a quick way to get yourself into friendzone honestly
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamMalone

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At the end of the first date, I always tell a girl that "I love you" and just laugh. It works. Shows them I'm not the type of guy that would say that for real, and it gets them to playful hit me and stuff. Hasn't done me wrong yet.
 

Doc Freezy

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I wouldnt pay, and tease her if she didnt bring money or expects you to pay for her.
 

tsmith2334

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Slickster said:
Start to finish

Big smiles and kino when you meet her
Funny or interesting story about something that just happened to you recently. Gets the ball rolling.
Keep the conversation light and fun.
No talk about relationships, past ex's, or future dates
Ask open ended questions.
Let her do most of the talking and look interested.
Lunch should be cheap so pay the bill. If she offers great but tell her you've got this one.
After the bill a little more convo but start looking for your out.
Be the one to end the date first
Don't linger when saying goodbye
End it with a simple smile and "It was good seeing you. Talk to you soon"
Be gone in a flash like you have someplace to be.


My plan for first dates is keep it simple, fun, and short. I like to act positive, interested, and like I'm genuinely enjoying her company. However I end the date quickly with no kino, no kiss and no mention of a future meeting. I want her to go from feeling like I was really interested to totally unsure. A pull-push if you will. Leave her feeling like it was an awesome date but she doesn't know if she'll see you again. I sometimes do this for the first 2 or 3 dates.

Some of the girls I've done this to in the past became gf's and told me that those first dates drove them crazy! They had no idea if I was interested or not. Also everyone of them raved about how great our first kiss was later on. They were literally dying for it.
^ Follow this, to the tee. This guy knows his stuff. Repped.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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