"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

First date this weekend; I'm shy and nervous!

WingHead

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2008
Messages
25
Reaction score
0
Okay, this weekend I've finally got a date with the girl I've liked for a long time. She's easily an HB8 or 9 and I'm really shy around people--especially girls. How can I deal with this? And do you have any first date tips? Thanks, guys.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

R1ch4rd

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2008
Messages
103
Reaction score
1
MMm how many hours have you got?

You need to practice, talking to strangers, holding eye contact, smiling, being friendly.
REad the stuff on this sites, but really try to get as much practice withs strangers and girls. and don't think of her as the be all end all, change your mindset, she's a girl what could potentually go out with YOU, not you with her, its you, and she could go oout with YOU. Your the guy, manly,. confident, she comes to you, you act despitre her words and decisions. Relax, deep breathes.

I'm not the best at this yet, but i thought i try my best
 

jeffthechef

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 23, 2008
Messages
675
Reaction score
13
haha..you watch Hitch? that **** is good..cept for his insecurity about love

ANYWAYS...first dates are always fun..
you don't want to spend the whole time getting to know each other...but you do want to have a nice converstion...but honestly, dont try and structure it beforehand..Conan said on the Actor's Studio
"The funniest things are always those that are spontaneous and unplanned."

same goes with the date...you start with one thing..and it leads to another and another...all you really need is conversational skills, kino, and a calm disposition

think about it this way...she's already said yes to hanging out with you, and if it's a date, then you've already got it done...your job is simply not to screw it up..that was from hitch

smile+talk+joke+kino = fun night
 

NewAndImproved

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 10, 2008
Messages
373
Reaction score
13
You'll be nervous and shy this weekend then. Just being blunt about it...You won't change overnight. That said, you probably won't do as badly as you imagine yourself doing. The date might start out roughly but pick up steam as you get more comfortable. Plus, you have time on you side. You'll get better.

I didn't go on my first real date until I was a freshman in college. I was quiet, funny at times...but she called me out on my relative silence. And yet, she continued to see me.
 

Natural Vibe

Don Juan
Joined
May 27, 2009
Messages
40
Reaction score
0
Location
Canada
Pretend you're going out with a good guy friend.

Except this time you're going to touch your guy friend and kiss him.

So, just act it out as if she was your guy friend. You want to be natural, calm and funny, like with your buddies when you play video games at 2 A.M. while choking on left-over cold pizza because your best friend is snoring during his sleep and is talking to strawberries.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Top