"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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First date this weekend; I'm shy and nervous!

WingHead

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Okay, this weekend I've finally got a date with the girl I've liked for a long time. She's easily an HB8 or 9 and I'm really shy around people--especially girls. How can I deal with this? And do you have any first date tips? Thanks, guys.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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R1ch4rd

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MMm how many hours have you got?

You need to practice, talking to strangers, holding eye contact, smiling, being friendly.
REad the stuff on this sites, but really try to get as much practice withs strangers and girls. and don't think of her as the be all end all, change your mindset, she's a girl what could potentually go out with YOU, not you with her, its you, and she could go oout with YOU. Your the guy, manly,. confident, she comes to you, you act despitre her words and decisions. Relax, deep breathes.

I'm not the best at this yet, but i thought i try my best
 

jeffthechef

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haha..you watch Hitch? that **** is good..cept for his insecurity about love

ANYWAYS...first dates are always fun..
you don't want to spend the whole time getting to know each other...but you do want to have a nice converstion...but honestly, dont try and structure it beforehand..Conan said on the Actor's Studio
"The funniest things are always those that are spontaneous and unplanned."

same goes with the date...you start with one thing..and it leads to another and another...all you really need is conversational skills, kino, and a calm disposition

think about it this way...she's already said yes to hanging out with you, and if it's a date, then you've already got it done...your job is simply not to screw it up..that was from hitch

smile+talk+joke+kino = fun night
 

NewAndImproved

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You'll be nervous and shy this weekend then. Just being blunt about it...You won't change overnight. That said, you probably won't do as badly as you imagine yourself doing. The date might start out roughly but pick up steam as you get more comfortable. Plus, you have time on you side. You'll get better.

I didn't go on my first real date until I was a freshman in college. I was quiet, funny at times...but she called me out on my relative silence. And yet, she continued to see me.
 

Natural Vibe

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Pretend you're going out with a good guy friend.

Except this time you're going to touch your guy friend and kiss him.

So, just act it out as if she was your guy friend. You want to be natural, calm and funny, like with your buddies when you play video games at 2 A.M. while choking on left-over cold pizza because your best friend is snoring during his sleep and is talking to strawberries.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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