Okay, this weekend I've finally got a date with the girl I've liked for a long time. She's easily an HB8 or 9 and I'm really shy around people--especially girls. How can I deal with this? And do you have any first date tips? Thanks, guys.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.