Driven2Sin
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I'm fresh out of a 6 year long-term relationship and am rusty on dating. I have a date (dinner followed by drinks at a comedy club) this coming Friday night with an 8.5 I met on a dating site. I imagine she is bombarded with messages everyday. My approach in getting her number and the date has been confident and direct--a man with a plan. Though I tend to be a bit shy so in person I will really need to step out of my shell a bit.
Here's the evolution of our interaction:
-day 1: I contacted her first expressing my interest
-day 2: she replied with a playful comment about my profile
-day 2-3: we exchanged a few rounds of 'get to know you' messages
-day 4: I gave her my number
-day 5: no communication between us
-day 6: She gives me her number; I text her that night--no reply
-day 7: I text her again--no reply
-day 8: I go no contact
-day 9: I go no contact
-day 10: I message her on the dating site and TELL her I want to see her for dinner, drinks, and something fun afterwards
-day 11: She replies to my message and says "possibly, what did you have in mind and when?" ; I tell her the plan for the evening for a Friday night (she's a school teacher so I wanted to avoid a weeknight) ; she replies "done. here's my number"
My questions:
1) on the dinner date, should I reach for and hold her hand as we walk?
-my thoughts are its a pretty forward move but if done confidently it can quickly establish connection, comfort, and sets the tone that you're not a potential friend but rather a potential lover; in my opinion it also says 'hey you're with me tonight'
2) what about all the other white knight chivalry moves, such as opening her car door, pulling out her chair? Yay or nay?
-I don't know if this is over the top, I mean how long can you keep that up? It seems weird to do it all the time, thus it kind of seems cheesey then to do it for the first-date.
3) On a first-date, meet somewhere or pick her up at her place?
-keeping in line with confident, direct, and a man with a plan, I lean towards TELLING (not asking) her that I'll pick her up at so and so time, which will require her giving me her address. We met online so I'm not sure if she would be uncomfortable with that idea.
4) If I pick her up, when the evening is done and I drop her off, do I walk her to her door?
-I know this seems like a lame question, but I'm rusty on dating.
5) In your estimation, what is her level of interest in me at the moment?
-I have my foot in the door, but getting a strong read on her has been a challenge since she didn't reply to my texts but has given me her number twice and said yes to the date. I mean she must be attracted to me physically, right?...after all we've met on a dating site so pictures are what you go off of. If so, knowing that gives me confidence to establish Kino and escalate as the date progresses.
Here's the evolution of our interaction:
-day 1: I contacted her first expressing my interest
-day 2: she replied with a playful comment about my profile
-day 2-3: we exchanged a few rounds of 'get to know you' messages
-day 4: I gave her my number
-day 5: no communication between us
-day 6: She gives me her number; I text her that night--no reply
-day 7: I text her again--no reply
-day 8: I go no contact
-day 9: I go no contact
-day 10: I message her on the dating site and TELL her I want to see her for dinner, drinks, and something fun afterwards
-day 11: She replies to my message and says "possibly, what did you have in mind and when?" ; I tell her the plan for the evening for a Friday night (she's a school teacher so I wanted to avoid a weeknight) ; she replies "done. here's my number"
My questions:
1) on the dinner date, should I reach for and hold her hand as we walk?
-my thoughts are its a pretty forward move but if done confidently it can quickly establish connection, comfort, and sets the tone that you're not a potential friend but rather a potential lover; in my opinion it also says 'hey you're with me tonight'
2) what about all the other white knight chivalry moves, such as opening her car door, pulling out her chair? Yay or nay?
-I don't know if this is over the top, I mean how long can you keep that up? It seems weird to do it all the time, thus it kind of seems cheesey then to do it for the first-date.
3) On a first-date, meet somewhere or pick her up at her place?
-keeping in line with confident, direct, and a man with a plan, I lean towards TELLING (not asking) her that I'll pick her up at so and so time, which will require her giving me her address. We met online so I'm not sure if she would be uncomfortable with that idea.
4) If I pick her up, when the evening is done and I drop her off, do I walk her to her door?
-I know this seems like a lame question, but I'm rusty on dating.
5) In your estimation, what is her level of interest in me at the moment?
-I have my foot in the door, but getting a strong read on her has been a challenge since she didn't reply to my texts but has given me her number twice and said yes to the date. I mean she must be attracted to me physically, right?...after all we've met on a dating site so pictures are what you go off of. If so, knowing that gives me confidence to establish Kino and escalate as the date progresses.
