"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First date lack of questions about myself.

John9999

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Had first date last night, about an hour and a half. She literally asked one question about how many kids I had and ages. Droned on and one about herself, her divorce and the death of a boyfriend 5 years ago.

like even when I said I was self employed she doesn’t ask what I do? When I say I’m active, doesn’t ask what I do for exercise.

I guess the good news is I stay a mystery.

What you guys think when this happens, cause it does occasionally. Do you start to volunteer info? Is it a sign of low interest? Is it a sign that she’s too into herself?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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its a bog standard female nature, allow me to explain, women by nature are selfish, they know no better,

Why? you may ask yourself....well they need only point at there vagina and they can get 100 long term commitment suckers there and then

they can get obese and still get 100 slightly ok males there and them

they can behave trashy and still get 100 half decent males

Do you see where i am going with this? "they don't have to figure ****t out"

you on the other hand as a male would be rejected from society over a spelling mistake


its like patrice o neil says 'Women don't play chess, it requires 25 levels of male thinking and they only have 2"
 

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Yeah. I guess.
this one spent half the date talking about her ex-husband and her ex-boyfriend. Total turn off. I would never do that on a date.
 

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this is why the humerous phrase N.A.W.A.L.T is so widely used in male communities "Not all women are like that" is the comeback used when a man with knowledge states all women are basically the same

Ive met about 20 women this last year, they all have the same general traits, i met one who left her phone alone, but she was unattractive(its usually the case)

we could sit 1 woman from USA and one from UK and the exact same stories would come out there mouth like they all read the same book

1.EX was abusive
2.EX cheated on her(considering how difficult it is for your average guy to get sex in 2019)
3.Ex still desires her (waffling like shes Sofia Vegara)
4.Ex was coke head/Drunk
5.Ex doesnt turn up for kids

Bla Bla basically shes the problem
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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