"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First date lack of questions about myself.

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Had first date last night, about an hour and a half. She literally asked one question about how many kids I had and ages. Droned on and one about herself, her divorce and the death of a boyfriend 5 years ago.

like even when I said I was self employed she doesn’t ask what I do? When I say I’m active, doesn’t ask what I do for exercise.

I guess the good news is I stay a mystery.

What you guys think when this happens, cause it does occasionally. Do you start to volunteer info? Is it a sign of low interest? Is it a sign that she’s too into herself?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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its a bog standard female nature, allow me to explain, women by nature are selfish, they know no better,

Why? you may ask yourself....well they need only point at there vagina and they can get 100 long term commitment suckers there and then

they can get obese and still get 100 slightly ok males there and them

they can behave trashy and still get 100 half decent males

Do you see where i am going with this? "they don't have to figure ****t out"

you on the other hand as a male would be rejected from society over a spelling mistake


its like patrice o neil says 'Women don't play chess, it requires 25 levels of male thinking and they only have 2"
 

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Yeah. I guess.
this one spent half the date talking about her ex-husband and her ex-boyfriend. Total turn off. I would never do that on a date.
 

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this is why the humerous phrase N.A.W.A.L.T is so widely used in male communities "Not all women are like that" is the comeback used when a man with knowledge states all women are basically the same

Ive met about 20 women this last year, they all have the same general traits, i met one who left her phone alone, but she was unattractive(its usually the case)

we could sit 1 woman from USA and one from UK and the exact same stories would come out there mouth like they all read the same book

1.EX was abusive
2.EX cheated on her(considering how difficult it is for your average guy to get sex in 2019)
3.Ex still desires her (waffling like shes Sofia Vegara)
4.Ex was coke head/Drunk
5.Ex doesnt turn up for kids

Bla Bla basically shes the problem
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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