"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yo'Mama

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I know this has been covered ad nauseam but I wanted to revisit it.

I've been going on a lot of dates lately. Half the girls seem to be really happy with kissing on the first date, the other half seem surprised and come out with comments like, 'Youre a bit fast aren't you?'

Do you guys have a set rule, like either you will go for it no matter what or you won't go for it no matter what. Or do you act according to the vibe you are getting from the girl?

Part of me is thinking that it may be better to hold off altogether on the first date and play it aloof and cool, leaving her wondering whether you like her or not.

Clearly this is irrelevant if you're fixated on a SNL, which generally I'm not.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have been going for it as long as the date had a decent vibe. I didnt bother when I felt like there was no real vibe besides friends. I have a relatively small sample size thus far, but I have had positive responses for all the first date kisses I went for.
 
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The goal is always escalation.

You want to get as far as is appropriate. So for instance.....some dates end with a kiss....some end with sex. Just depends upon how attracted she is to you and her personality(is she open to sex on a 1st date?).

HB: You sure are fast arent you?
Exception: No.....it usually takes me until date 52 to go for the kiss.

Obviously, if the date ends with no escalation(and no a fvcking hug is not escalation) or she is not attracted, I would not pursue any further.
 
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