"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yo'Mama

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I know this has been covered ad nauseam but I wanted to revisit it.

I've been going on a lot of dates lately. Half the girls seem to be really happy with kissing on the first date, the other half seem surprised and come out with comments like, 'Youre a bit fast aren't you?'

Do you guys have a set rule, like either you will go for it no matter what or you won't go for it no matter what. Or do you act according to the vibe you are getting from the girl?

Part of me is thinking that it may be better to hold off altogether on the first date and play it aloof and cool, leaving her wondering whether you like her or not.

Clearly this is irrelevant if you're fixated on a SNL, which generally I'm not.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have been going for it as long as the date had a decent vibe. I didnt bother when I felt like there was no real vibe besides friends. I have a relatively small sample size thus far, but I have had positive responses for all the first date kisses I went for.
 
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The goal is always escalation.

You want to get as far as is appropriate. So for instance.....some dates end with a kiss....some end with sex. Just depends upon how attracted she is to you and her personality(is she open to sex on a 1st date?).

HB: You sure are fast arent you?
Exception: No.....it usually takes me until date 52 to go for the kiss.

Obviously, if the date ends with no escalation(and no a fvcking hug is not escalation) or she is not attracted, I would not pursue any further.
 
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