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Senior Don Juan
I'm in Brazil. Here, everytime I'm going to greet a girl I know or don't know, I give a hug and kiss on the cheek (or I get the kiss on the cheek). Oh, it's great!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
*crosses himself*Originally posted by JT47319
Buddha fycking Christ, what kind of BULLSHYT AFC HORSE MANURE CRAP IS THIS?!
Listen, if you're having a Day2 (ie date) with a chick, you must think of yourself as having made the cut from NON-FYCKABLE to FYCKABLE. So on your "date", you are not thinking AFC (ie do I kiss on the first date? hug? shake hands?), no, that's thinking from the FYCKING BOTTOM.
You are thinking, is this date going to end up with a FYCK? If not, then a BLYWJOB? A Handjob? A Makeout? A kiss? A hug? etc. etc. etc. That's TOP DOWN thinking.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE AND SHE WANTS YOU. You need to induce and maintain a state of emotional sexuality in her so that she finds YOU desireable and sexual.
You must understand that she is NOT thinking of whether or not to FYCK you, but whether WHEN she is going to fyck you. Tonight or the next date.
THAT'S HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
A wave? On a first date!? Easy man, remember...You shouldn't even ACKNOWLEDGE her on the first date. I mean, it would be HORRIBLE to show interest, right? Even looking towards her is dangerous since you could be moving too fast.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
A simple wave should be fine. And be careful, you don't want to get too close. Maybe you can stand on the other side of the street and wave at her when traffic clears.
I mean, a handshake involves touching, and that's way too fast for a first date, you wild stallion.
And then hugging? Man, doesn't anyone have any morals anymore? You're liable to get the girl pregnant with those sorts of shenanigans and goings-on.
Handshakes? Hugs? Waves... DATES!!? What is wrong with you people? Where are your morals and values? Jesus, I like to wait until the fifth date before I even maintain eye contact with a woman... and we are already jumping to handshakes? Hugs? Jesus Christ, the dating scene sure has changed from my day.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Whoa! Easy there, cowboy. Everyone knows that in this situation, you're getting way too far ahead of yourself.
A simple wave should be fine. And be careful, you don't want to get too close. Maybe you can stand on the other side of the street and wave at her when traffic clears.
I mean, a handshake involves touching, and that's way too fast for a first date, you wild stallion.
And then hugging? Man, doesn't anyone have any morals anymore? You're liable to get the girl pregnant with those sorts of shenanigans and goings-on.
Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
Handshakes? Hugs? Waves... DATES!!? What is wrong with you people? Where are your morals and values? Jesus, I like to wait until the fifth date before I even maintain eye contact with a woman... and we are already jumping to handshakes? Hugs? Jesus Christ, the dating scene sure has changed from my day.
And Crazykid... screw all of that not acknowledging stuff... I will do you even one better... I do not even show up for the first date. That sends their interest level through the roof!
*All of the following from your friendly neighborhood moderators, should be taken with a grain of salt... or maybe a margarita*
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.