ok I have a question regarding behaviour I've noticed in a couple of girls I've dated recently. After say 2 or 3 dates they start talking about themselves in a negative sense and disclosing stuff about themsleves that is generally a turnoff...also swearing etc. For example one chick mentioned that her cat brought home a dead rat so she has to go to the chemist to pick up worm tablets. I'm thinking wtf do I want to hear that for. When it comes across though I just let it go as if it doesn't bother me but I'm just wondering if anyone has encountered it and what to make of it...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think that it's that they are just telling you what's going on in their lives, the good the bad the ugly, and because they're good looking women, past guys have never said to them "what the hell are you telling me this for?" so they've never had to learn how to measure what they say.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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nothing like that. the worse for me was when a girl kept complaining about her sister and how her friends sucked.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
mikeraw
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Don't read too much into it. I think that these girls don't have good conversation and they fall back on their favorite topic: themselves. Maybe they're avoiding awkward silences.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
