ok I have a question regarding behaviour I've noticed in a couple of girls I've dated recently. After say 2 or 3 dates they start talking about themselves in a negative sense and disclosing stuff about themsleves that is generally a turnoff...also swearing etc. For example one chick mentioned that her cat brought home a dead rat so she has to go to the chemist to pick up worm tablets. I'm thinking wtf do I want to hear that for. When it comes across though I just let it go as if it doesn't bother me but I'm just wondering if anyone has encountered it and what to make of it...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think that it's that they are just telling you what's going on in their lives, the good the bad the ugly, and because they're good looking women, past guys have never said to them "what the hell are you telling me this for?" so they've never had to learn how to measure what they say.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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nothing like that. the worse for me was when a girl kept complaining about her sister and how her friends sucked.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
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Don't read too much into it. I think that these girls don't have good conversation and they fall back on their favorite topic: themselves. Maybe they're avoiding awkward silences.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
