ok I have a question regarding behaviour I've noticed in a couple of girls I've dated recently. After say 2 or 3 dates they start talking about themselves in a negative sense and disclosing stuff about themsleves that is generally a turnoff...also swearing etc. For example one chick mentioned that her cat brought home a dead rat so she has to go to the chemist to pick up worm tablets. I'm thinking wtf do I want to hear that for. When it comes across though I just let it go as if it doesn't bother me but I'm just wondering if anyone has encountered it and what to make of it...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think that it's that they are just telling you what's going on in their lives, the good the bad the ugly, and because they're good looking women, past guys have never said to them "what the hell are you telling me this for?" so they've never had to learn how to measure what they say.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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nothing like that. the worse for me was when a girl kept complaining about her sister and how her friends sucked.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
don't people know by now that complaining about others especially those you choose to associate with is more a reflection of themselves rather than who they're talking about. meh.
mikeraw
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Don't read too much into it. I think that these girls don't have good conversation and they fall back on their favorite topic: themselves. Maybe they're avoiding awkward silences.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
Some may just be testing the waters to see what they can get away with.
