Yeah thats right... I finnaly went up to a girl today and said HI. and after that i relized how easy it is to talk to girls.. ! JEEZ!! haha i was talking to them all day at school i just got real use to approaching today! haha its so easy now..
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
finnaly Faced my fear.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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A step ahead of me.
I'm guessing you don't go to a real preppy school where alot of people judge you either.
I'm guessing you don't go to a real preppy school where alot of people judge you either.
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oh my g0d, nice one, i remmber when i was shy, stupid sh1t really.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Being shy is about the worst thing you could do when it comes to getting women. You say you're now over your fear, after one approach, and that's awesome. It took me several cold approaches before I got over it.
i mean.. after 1 approach.. it broke that barrier.. i have made like 5 cold approaches in the past couple days.. and after that many approaches even tho they werent alot. U relize that being shy is a waste of time and stressful.
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My first real approach was on this girl I had a HUUUGE crush on, and in fact, I still haven't found a girl more attractive than her, so even after an approach on her I was still nervous, and needless to say, screwed everything up. I know how it feels to have a confidence boost on some days when you talk to a lot of hot girls, it's like you don't hesitate to talk to anyone and you act completely without thinking, which is good. On other days you might have trouble getting started, but after that first approach you just go on a rampage, lol.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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