"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Finding a woman who makes your life less comfortable

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Hey there guys!
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Around the 12-minute mark, John discusses a crucial aspect about women...

He suggests that while one type of woman might make you feel comfortable, another might bring discomfort, and that, in fact, it is better to end up with the latter. During your difficult moments, she will remind you of your responsibilities, urge you to stay the course, and push you to be a man of integrity who keeps his promises.

(But, from my POV, it is also true that there are women who bring discomfort, but, women choosing difficult, "broken" men, hoping deep down that they might change, and spending the entire relationship, right up until the breakup, trying to fix them, rather than simply choosing a better man from the start.)



Around the 21-minute mark, he begins to argue that a "6" (on a scale of 1 to 10) is a better choice than a "9" when..

"9" who would leave you the moment she discovers a man with an 8-pack instead of your 6-pack, or a bank account of 2 million instead of your 1 million, is simply superficial. Therefore, he argues, you should judge a woman based on who she truly is, rather than how she presents herself to you. In this sense, it’s as if John still believes a man holds the power to determine whether or not a woman is "good", wheter or not He can see behind her mask.

(In my POV, women can change, and yes, she might very well leave for a guy with more muscles, or that he is more attractive, when the relationship gets tough. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Does that make her a "bad" woman? Not necessarily; she is simply a woman, acting on her impulses.)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm sure some guys would argue that you should choose the woman who makes you life uncomfortable, because that keeps you motivated and doesn't let you relax (and go to seed). I think a partner should make your life more comfortable though. If I want to excel at something, I want it to be my choice, not just to please my woman.
 

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I'm sure some guys would argue that you should choose the woman who makes you life uncomfortable, because that keeps you motivated and doesn't let you relax (and go to seed). I think a partner should make your life more comfortable though. If I want to excel at something, I want it to be my choice, not just to please my woman.
Thats like 95% of men even tho they either are unaware or they simply volunteer for it.

And tbh, the prize of p00sy = lesss comfort. Its a tale as old as time...(cga qoute) money time energy attention. You must have an abundance of one of those ,the moment you don't have an abundance of either one and she be bugging you'll understand that the prize isn't always monetary .

And thats one of the many strange things about women; they KNOW they chip away from you what you're building ect. Thats why women tend to love "badboys" because they DGAF about the masquerading act women put on. A woman loves flowers being spoiled evt but simultaneously she will respect tye man who doesn't put her first...

Anyway, a woman = less comfort. A child = less comfort. A friends who goes rouge = less comfort. And addicted cousin = less comfort.
 

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Surrounding oneself with folks who'll tell us the truth is invaluable. Whether or not this listener is "comfortable" afterwards is on them
 
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