"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Finding a woman who makes your life less comfortable

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Hey there guys!
Jhonny's here!



Around the 12-minute mark, John discusses a crucial aspect about women...

He suggests that while one type of woman might make you feel comfortable, another might bring discomfort, and that, in fact, it is better to end up with the latter. During your difficult moments, she will remind you of your responsibilities, urge you to stay the course, and push you to be a man of integrity who keeps his promises.

(But, from my POV, it is also true that there are women who bring discomfort, but, women choosing difficult, "broken" men, hoping deep down that they might change, and spending the entire relationship, right up until the breakup, trying to fix them, rather than simply choosing a better man from the start.)



Around the 21-minute mark, he begins to argue that a "6" (on a scale of 1 to 10) is a better choice than a "9" when..

"9" who would leave you the moment she discovers a man with an 8-pack instead of your 6-pack, or a bank account of 2 million instead of your 1 million, is simply superficial. Therefore, he argues, you should judge a woman based on who she truly is, rather than how she presents herself to you. In this sense, it’s as if John still believes a man holds the power to determine whether or not a woman is "good", wheter or not He can see behind her mask.

(In my POV, women can change, and yes, she might very well leave for a guy with more muscles, or that he is more attractive, when the relationship gets tough. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Does that make her a "bad" woman? Not necessarily; she is simply a woman, acting on her impulses.)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm sure some guys would argue that you should choose the woman who makes you life uncomfortable, because that keeps you motivated and doesn't let you relax (and go to seed). I think a partner should make your life more comfortable though. If I want to excel at something, I want it to be my choice, not just to please my woman.
 

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I'm sure some guys would argue that you should choose the woman who makes you life uncomfortable, because that keeps you motivated and doesn't let you relax (and go to seed). I think a partner should make your life more comfortable though. If I want to excel at something, I want it to be my choice, not just to please my woman.
Thats like 95% of men even tho they either are unaware or they simply volunteer for it.

And tbh, the prize of p00sy = lesss comfort. Its a tale as old as time...(cga qoute) money time energy attention. You must have an abundance of one of those ,the moment you don't have an abundance of either one and she be bugging you'll understand that the prize isn't always monetary .

And thats one of the many strange things about women; they KNOW they chip away from you what you're building ect. Thats why women tend to love "badboys" because they DGAF about the masquerading act women put on. A woman loves flowers being spoiled evt but simultaneously she will respect tye man who doesn't put her first...

Anyway, a woman = less comfort. A child = less comfort. A friends who goes rouge = less comfort. And addicted cousin = less comfort.
 

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Surrounding oneself with folks who'll tell us the truth is invaluable. Whether or not this listener is "comfortable" afterwards is on them
 
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