"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So a couple months back i start to notice that this tall blond chick is always smiling/eye contact whenever i walk by. It takes me a while to realize shes smiling at me cause she is HOT.

I danced with her for a couple of songs at a formal and she seemed pretty into me, just another dude asked her to dance before i escalated. I didnt see her the rest of the night though so i didnt get to.

Now i still see her every now and then, but she seems to be losing interest. The only place i could talk to her is passing time or in line at lunch. Ive made it my goal to approach her next week, cause i know nothings ever gonna happen if i dont. i still dont even know her name.

How do i approach her in lunch or passing time?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Passing by her after eye contact

"You need to stop looking at me or I'll have to start charging" (with a big grin)
Follow up with "So how's that for a pick-up line?"
Then close with "No but seriously, give me your number so we can hang out [today,tomorrow,friday,this weekend]."
C+F and you aren't going to ask for her number, you're telling her to give it to you. :)
 

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When you see her you could say something like "hey thanks a lot my toes still hurt from you stompin on my feet all night at the dance" or something like that. You get the idea
 

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faiNt` said:
Passing by her after eye contact

"You need to stop looking at me or I'll have to start charging" (with a big grin)
Follow up with "So how's that for a pick-up line?"
Then close with "No but seriously, give me your number so we can hang out [today,tomorrow,friday,this weekend]."
C+F and you aren't going to ask for her number, you're telling her to give it to you. :)

id try that, but do lines work in high school?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah^^ but the point is you have to be joking about the pick-up line part, because if you are serious she is going to laugh in your face xD
 
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