"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Finally lost my virginity.

SamTheHobit

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

Been seeing her for about 3 and a half months and shes 18.

My thoughts - Well I promised myself I would only lose my virginity to another virgin, she wasn't a virgin which kinda sucked, but I guess life isn't perfect. Feeling pretty bad today, it could be the alcohol that's put me under the weather. The experience was interesting although I couldn't get it up (probably the alcohol) but after a few more tries I finally got it in.

I don't know where things will go with this girl, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish. As always I try to keep myself grounded and realize no situation is permanent.

I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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El Payaso

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Good for you. At least you have an online community to confide to.
 

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Congrats and you have many more to look forward to!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lozboss

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish.
I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
Good for you mate- try to keep sober-ish if it's affecting your hardon.

Red RED FLAG- this IS NOT GF Material. DO NOT date this chick beyond a FWB.

Blue: You need new friends- join a sports team, even if you suck at it. Expand your social circles. Women will come with that.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Good work mate. Whatever people tell you, everyone's first time is usually a bit of a fail. It's probably been an issue for you for years, but you can leave that behind now. Look at it as an opening of the flood gates rather than being a source of new issues or insecurities. May be have this girl to practice your skills, so to speak. At your age, it probably won't be happily ever after anyway.
 

amazingswayze

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

Been seeing her for about 3 and a half months and shes 18.

My thoughts - Well I promised myself I would only lose my virginity to another virgin, she wasn't a virgin which kinda sucked, but I guess life isn't perfect. Feeling pretty bad today, it could be the alcohol that's put me under the weather. The experience was interesting although I couldn't get it up (probably the alcohol) but after a few more tries I finally got it in.

I don't know where things will go with this girl, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish. As always I try to keep myself grounded and realize no situation is permanent.

I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
makes me realize when i lose mine it wont be as big of a deal as i thought. at least it'll be over with. i'm happy for this dude.

honestly, unless you're tim tebow, i think male virginity is a problem. its ok for a while but the older you get the more pressure inflicted upon the individual. i just started college and im dorming next year so it'll happen soon enough. whatever. not doing much execpt the gym, dieting, and school work.

sorry OP, not trying to take over your thread... anyways, congrats!
 

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Congratulations, Sam. A little monkey off the back.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamTheHobit

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Thanks guys. Appreciate it.
 
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