"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Finally lost my virginity.

SamTheHobit

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

Been seeing her for about 3 and a half months and shes 18.

My thoughts - Well I promised myself I would only lose my virginity to another virgin, she wasn't a virgin which kinda sucked, but I guess life isn't perfect. Feeling pretty bad today, it could be the alcohol that's put me under the weather. The experience was interesting although I couldn't get it up (probably the alcohol) but after a few more tries I finally got it in.

I don't know where things will go with this girl, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish. As always I try to keep myself grounded and realize no situation is permanent.

I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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El Payaso

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Good for you. At least you have an online community to confide to.
 

dustmuffin

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Congrats and you have many more to look forward to!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lozboss

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish.
I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
Good for you mate- try to keep sober-ish if it's affecting your hardon.

Red RED FLAG- this IS NOT GF Material. DO NOT date this chick beyond a FWB.

Blue: You need new friends- join a sports team, even if you suck at it. Expand your social circles. Women will come with that.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Good work mate. Whatever people tell you, everyone's first time is usually a bit of a fail. It's probably been an issue for you for years, but you can leave that behind now. Look at it as an opening of the flood gates rather than being a source of new issues or insecurities. May be have this girl to practice your skills, so to speak. At your age, it probably won't be happily ever after anyway.
 

amazingswayze

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Any way so I finally decided to give a seemingly worthwhile girl my virginity last night.

Been seeing her for about 3 and a half months and shes 18.

My thoughts - Well I promised myself I would only lose my virginity to another virgin, she wasn't a virgin which kinda sucked, but I guess life isn't perfect. Feeling pretty bad today, it could be the alcohol that's put me under the weather. The experience was interesting although I couldn't get it up (probably the alcohol) but after a few more tries I finally got it in.

I don't know where things will go with this girl, she's a really cool chick although she's incredibly selfish. As always I try to keep myself grounded and realize no situation is permanent.

I wish I had some good friends to confide this to but they are all pretty selfish to.
makes me realize when i lose mine it wont be as big of a deal as i thought. at least it'll be over with. i'm happy for this dude.

honestly, unless you're tim tebow, i think male virginity is a problem. its ok for a while but the older you get the more pressure inflicted upon the individual. i just started college and im dorming next year so it'll happen soon enough. whatever. not doing much execpt the gym, dieting, and school work.

sorry OP, not trying to take over your thread... anyways, congrats!
 

zekko

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Congratulations, Sam. A little monkey off the back.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SamTheHobit

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Thanks guys. Appreciate it.
 
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