Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Originally posted by Jariel
Seriously man, you need to step back and look at what you are doing.
You're taping conversations and analysing them.
You're waiting for her to call and looking for any excuse to call her.
You're planning what to say to her.
You're thinking of trying the old wrong number, accidental call game.
This is obsessive behaviour!
I don't mean this as a criticism against you. I've been there myself with an ex-girlfriend and that's why I recognise it, but you need to stop yourself now and let go before it gets out of control.
If she doesn't call, she is not interested and you have to get on with your life. If she is interested, you are going to scare her away with this desperate behaviour.
Assume she's not going to call, otherwise you're going to find your life comes to a halt! Trust me on this!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.