"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Finally i called she sounded mad!! listen to the convo inside
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You're taping conversations and analysing them.
You're waiting for her to call and looking for any excuse to call her.
You're planning what to say to her.
You're thinking of trying the old wrong number, accidental call game.
This is obsessive behaviour!
I don't mean this as a criticism against you. I've been there myself with an ex-girlfriend and that's why I recognise it, but you need to stop yourself now and let go before it gets out of control.
If she doesn't call, she is not interested and you have to get on with your life. If she is interested, you are going to scare her away with this desperate behaviour.
Assume she's not going to call, otherwise you're going to find your life comes to a halt! Trust me on this!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Man ima just give her one last call with no games and no bs, then after that call ill next her or not depending on how it goes.
edit : man now that i think of it man, its preety much clear that she is interested, if not she would had gave me a fake number but again bottom line she had to go, its preety simple why try to dig for dirt where there aint non.
like i said ima call tomorrow and see what she is all about, if she gives me some excuse again or some bs then the answer to next her will be clear.
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You dont have to use those exact words but send that message. There is no right or wrong way to say it cause she doesnt know you or have any expectation. The convo should be short and straight to the point. If she Bs around ask her very up front if she is making an excuse or is she really interested cause you are. Remember her mind is playing as many negative tricks on her as your is on you, and she is 100 times more scared of you then you are of her. Just be a man and a man simply says what he means.