"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Finally getting with your long term crush
- Thread starter X-Man
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
bigjohnson
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WhitePimp
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old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
but i don't see this going anywhere and if i were y ou i'd be appaual by her actions
this is how i would persnally see the situtation
first of all i would never (anymore) be in a situtation where i liked a girl for 3 years and i wasn't fvcking her. but let's say i was. and i go in for the kiss and she responds. and then she has the freaking nerve after a night of making out to tell me this can't lead anywhere.
now,k you said yourself she has been a serial dater. i'm not even calling her a hoe or a slut. i'm saying you mean to tell me that i don't in your mind match the crateria as a man worth dating even though you dated half the city already?
next
there is no other way to see this. lol in the other thread we go into a very lenthgy discussion about the **** carousel and i argued that i don't believe in it. most of the time. lol this is the exception. this girl is a joke of a woman. i'm sorry.
the only reason she is kissing you is to make herself feel better / wanted until the next **** carousel conductor comes along and wets her whsitle.
you don't do it for her. i'm not even saying there is anything really wrong with you i think her judgement in men is god awful
when i first got here in was in a similar situation with a girl for 6 years. yes six. so this gets under my skin. oddly enough, i eventually got her. we quasi dated for one month and i was so disappoitnged because she was no where near worth all the trouble i went through
if i were you i'd let it go. i don't care how sexy or amazing she is she's playing games