MatureDJ
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Finally, a woman's honest assessment in a dating site profile
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
logicallefty
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It is reasonable to conclude that if she is that up front about the mental illness she is probably taking something for it and has it under control. She may be far less crazy then your average woman walking around with an sine wave in her head and not doing a darn thing about it.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
This is nothing but slick copywriting. If you start off your "sales letter" (and all dating profiles are sales letters) which a bunch of self-deprecation, it will make everything else seem believable and trustworthy.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Still crazy...run!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yeah, run! Sounds like the ex I met online last year. She was upfront about it, I stupidly thought I could handle it, and BAM - total crazy started 2 months in. Been broken up for 8 months, haven't seen her since, and she still tries to contact me weekly.