MatureDJ
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Finally, a woman's honest assessment in a dating site profile
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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It is reasonable to conclude that if she is that up front about the mental illness she is probably taking something for it and has it under control. She may be far less crazy then your average woman walking around with an sine wave in her head and not doing a darn thing about it.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
This is nothing but slick copywriting. If you start off your "sales letter" (and all dating profiles are sales letters) which a bunch of self-deprecation, it will make everything else seem believable and trustworthy.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Still crazy...run!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yeah, run! Sounds like the ex I met online last year. She was upfront about it, I stupidly thought I could handle it, and BAM - total crazy started 2 months in. Been broken up for 8 months, haven't seen her since, and she still tries to contact me weekly.