MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Finally, a woman's honest assessment in a dating site profile
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
logicallefty
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It is reasonable to conclude that if she is that up front about the mental illness she is probably taking something for it and has it under control. She may be far less crazy then your average woman walking around with an sine wave in her head and not doing a darn thing about it.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
This is nothing but slick copywriting. If you start off your "sales letter" (and all dating profiles are sales letters) which a bunch of self-deprecation, it will make everything else seem believable and trustworthy.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
(Dear Friend,
I'm really stupid, short and ugly, but I've discovered a money making system that even works for me! It all started when...)
This is NOT some women who "gets it" and who wants to "tell the truth." It is merely a marketing ploy to improve her results.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Still crazy...run!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yeah, run! Sounds like the ex I met online last year. She was upfront about it, I stupidly thought I could handle it, and BAM - total crazy started 2 months in. Been broken up for 8 months, haven't seen her since, and she still tries to contact me weekly.